36 Questions To Fall In Love And Make Love In An Hour

Sometimes 36 questions are not enough to fall in love. Sometimes a glance is all it takes and other times it takes years to realize our feelings.

We all know that one of the key factors in falling in love and making love  is, without a doubt, to establish a mutual space of intimacy.

Succeeding in this bond of complicity and trust with another person suddenly gives us an intense, magical and special emotion that can generate a feeling of love.

We already know that sometimes the attraction between two people  escapes logic and reason. However, many studies have been done to verify how this chemistry works. 

Human behaviors and impulses develop this strong feeling which can last for months and, why not, all life.

It was in 1996 that  the social psychologist Arthur Aron carried out an astonishing experiment  in a laboratory of his department of Interpersonal Relations at Stony Brook University in New York (United States).

Its objective was to verify how the variables that could establish a union between two unknown people worked  . To do this, he used a series of questions that created a strong bond of intimacy between them.

At first, Aron’s work did not seek to make people fall in love.  His work was purely academic and was carried out in an experimental and laboratory setting.

In January of the same year, The New York Times magazine again published an academic study by Mandy Len Catron.

According to her, with the help of 36 questions  that Professor Aron had established to obtain this bond of intimacy between two people, it was possible to fall in love and to make love. 

She realized it and claimed it was working. We are sure you will be interested in this topic so find out with us how this set of questions works. 

Arthur Aron’s 36 questions about personal and emotional intimacy

We will start by clarifying several aspects. The questions you will read in this article deal with very intimate and personal themes. 

In fact, established couples may never have been able to ask themselves this whole series of questions.

The 36 questions are organized in 3 parts.

Performing this test with a stranger requires patience and it is best to start with the first set, in  order to see how we feel.

If you feel uncomfortable, it is better to stop, but if you notice that a certain bond is being created and that the atmosphere is rather comfortable to facilitate the dialogue, continue. The experience is worth it.

It should be added that,  if you are already in a relationship, it is very interesting to do this test as well.  Even if it lasts over an hour, it is well worth it.

Far from being a simple game, each question “examines, explores and turns on a light” . Fears, personal needs, flaws and qualities will be brought to light.

These voices are often hidden, and we don’t always show them so easily in front of someone we love.

We encourage you to do these 36 questions with whoever you want,  even if the goal is not necessarily to fall in love or to make love.

Thanks to them, we will succeed in stripping ourselves and the other to see him as an equal,  to think, to know and to understand. 

Take note of how to perform this test:

• Choose a quiet place.
• Say the questions aloud, in turn. Each member of the couple must give an answer after each question formulated. 
• Both members of the couple should maintain eye contact at all times.
• There are three sets of questions. You will have to take a break at the end of each of them, and decide whether both parties want to continue or not. 

First set of questions to fall in love

• If you could choose any  person in the world,  who would you like to invite to dinner?
• Would you like to be known? In which way ?
• Before you call someone, do you practice what you’re going to say? Why ? 
• How would a perfect day be for you?
• When was the last time you sang to yourself? What about someone else?
• If you could live to be 90, what would you prefer? Have the mind or body of a 30-year-old?
• Do you have a hunch about how you’re going to die?
• List three things you would like to have in common with your partner.
• For what thing in life do you feel most indebted to yourself?
• If you could change any of the ways you were raised, what would you change?
• Take 4 minutes and explain your life story.
• If you could wake up tomorrow having achieved any quality or skill, what would it be?

Second series of questions to fall in love

• If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, your future, or anything else, what would you like to know?
• Is there something you wish you had done for a long time? Why haven’t you ever done it?
• What is the greatest achievement of your life?
• What is most important in a friendship for you?
• What is your most precious memory?
• What is your most terrible memory?
• If you knew you were going to die in a year, would you change anything in the way you live? Why ?
• What does friendship mean to you? 
• What roles do love and sadness play in your life?
• Explain the 5 things you look for in a relationship.
• Do you have a good relationship with your family? Do you feel that your childhood was happier than most people?
• How do you feel about the relationship you have with your mother? 

Third set of questions to fall in love

• Make three true statements with the pronoun “we”. For example: “We are asking ourselves questions, we are together, relaxed etc.”
• Complete this sentence: “I would like to have someone with whom to share…”
• If you were to become a close friend of your partner, explain what it would be important for him or her to know.
• Tell the person in front of you what you like about him or her. 
• Talk about a shameful moment in your life.
• When was the last time you cried in front of another person? And alone ? 
• Tell the person in front of you what you like about the friends you have today.
• What do you think is too serious to laugh about, if there is something? 
• If you died this afternoon without having been able to tell anyone, what would you most regret not having said and to whom? Why haven’t you told him yet?
• Your house, with everything you own, catches fire. After saving people and pets,  you have time to go back in one last time, grab an item and save it. What would it be? Why ?
• Of all the people in your family, whose death would affect you the most? Why ?
• Share a personal problem and ask the person in front of you for advice on how they would act in the same situation. 

In conclusion, this series of works on human relations and emotions is always interesting.

Now, it should be remembered that sometimes 36 questions are not enough to fall in love or make love, because love does not always answer reasons or explanations.

Sometimes a glance is all it takes and other times it takes years to realize our feelings.

But, without a doubt, falling in love is an adventure that is always worth living.